Comments on: The hard bits nobody talks about http://atypicalife.net/blog/2005/06/08/the-hard-bits-nobody-talks-about/ the continuing adventures of us Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:34:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: ~Leann http://atypicalife.net/blog/2005/06/08/the-hard-bits-nobody-talks-about/comment-page-1/#comment-2952 ~Leann Sat, 11 Jun 2005 13:51:38 +0000 http://atypicalife.net/blog/?p=1682#comment-2952 You have no idea how much this hits home with all we have struggled with this year. Our oldest has been through things that I am so glad we have been at home to deal with instead of hearing it from a teacher and having to be in her office every day with her as a moderator. You are so right about HSing bringing things to light. It sure has made our family stronger in dealing with things as a family in this manner. Thanks for sharing this! You have no idea how much this hits home with all we have struggled with this year. Our oldest has been through things that I am so glad we have been at home to deal with instead of hearing it from a teacher and having to be in her office every day with her as a moderator. You are so right about HSing bringing things to light. It sure has made our family stronger in dealing with things as a family in this manner. Thanks for sharing this!

]]> By: Schuyler http://atypicalife.net/blog/2005/06/08/the-hard-bits-nobody-talks-about/comment-page-1/#comment-2941 Schuyler Fri, 10 Jun 2005 09:01:35 +0000 http://atypicalife.net/blog/?p=1682#comment-2941 I don't know, I think the problems can be exacerbated by school. Think how tired and stressed out kids get at school and then they come home for however few hours a day it is after storing up all the stress and dump it off at home. Maybe those people who school their children don't really know who their children are well enough to say they don't like them? I don’t know, I think the problems can be exacerbated by school. Think how tired and stressed out kids get at school and then they come home for however few hours a day it is after storing up all the stress and dump it off at home. Maybe those people who school their children don’t really know who their children are well enough to say they don’t like them?

]]> By: Christina http://atypicalife.net/blog/2005/06/08/the-hard-bits-nobody-talks-about/comment-page-1/#comment-2937 Christina Thu, 09 Jun 2005 22:16:05 +0000 http://atypicalife.net/blog/?p=1682#comment-2937 We had a neighbor that had a baby after 40 when she thought she was done with diapers and potty training and she really could not handle being around her toddler. She'd put him to bed at 6 and was always complaining of being tired and having no time for herself. So she made time for herself. Last we heard she and her husband were in jail due to neglect of the kids - they left them alone until 2am when the oldest called the police department and said he didn't know where his mom was - and the kids are now in foster care. I know this is an extreme case, though. We had a neighbor that had a baby after 40 when she thought she was done with diapers and
potty training and she really could not handle being around her toddler. She’d put him to
bed at 6 and was always complaining of being tired and having no time for herself. So she
made time for herself. Last we heard she and her husband were in jail due to neglect of the kids – they left them alone until 2am when the oldest called the police department and said he didn’t know where his mom was –
and the kids are now in foster care. I know this is an extreme case, though.

]]> By: Jana http://atypicalife.net/blog/2005/06/08/the-hard-bits-nobody-talks-about/comment-page-1/#comment-2931 Jana Thu, 09 Jun 2005 14:52:21 +0000 http://atypicalife.net/blog/?p=1682#comment-2931 "Sending the kids somewhere else doesn’t deal with any problems. It hands it off to someone else for them to deal with. It puts off what’s really going on." That's exactly why I'm keeping my oldest at home again next year, despite everyone from my husband to my parents telling me I should send him to private school. It would be the easy thing for me to do, but it wouldn't be right for him. It has been anything but smooth sailing for the last 4 years, but I'm still not going to be the one to say I give up. I'm just going to keep working at it because I really feel like that's the only good choice here. “Sending the kids somewhere else doesn’t deal with any problems. It hands it off to someone else for them to deal with. It puts off what’s really going on.”

That’s exactly why I’m keeping my oldest at home again next year, despite everyone from my husband to my parents telling me I should send him to private school. It would be the easy thing for me to do, but it wouldn’t be right for him. It has been anything but smooth sailing for the last 4 years, but I’m still not going to be the one to say I give up. I’m just going to keep working at it because I really feel like that’s the only good choice here.

]]> By: Kim http://atypicalife.net/blog/2005/06/08/the-hard-bits-nobody-talks-about/comment-page-1/#comment-2930 Kim Thu, 09 Jun 2005 03:51:35 +0000 http://atypicalife.net/blog/?p=1682#comment-2930 That is really well put, Andrea! Not to change the point, but people do say they couldn't stand to be with their kids or have the patience to me on a regular basis too. I'm always very polite about it, but when I think on it, the people who say this are usually women I know who stayed home with their kids for the first 2 to 4 years anyway so they were able to stand it then. I think they just have a faulty assumption that school-aged children need something they are unable to provide timewise and energywise. Which I don't think is true,if you are active in your commmunity. That is really well put, Andrea! Not to change the point, but people do say they couldn’t stand to be with their kids or have the patience to me on a regular basis too. I’m always very polite about it, but when I think on it, the people who say this are usually women I know who stayed home with their kids for the first 2 to 4 years anyway so they were able to stand it then. I think they just have a faulty assumption that school-aged children need something they are unable to provide timewise and energywise. Which I don’t think is true,if you are active in your commmunity.

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