I wish I said that

Yesterday my daughter, Andrea mentioned it was the twentieth anniversary of the day she and Ron met.   They center each other and I am happy that my daughter married well.  

For years I have been clipping quotations from newspapers and magazines.  I tucked them away in a special little box and later use these phrases for inspiration when writing thank you notes or cards.   I thought of Ron and Andrea when I read this:

“Marriage is not about finding the right person but about becoming the right person.  You have to be willing to face the changes that take place as your mature and to face the changes in the person you’ve married.  We marry people believing that they’re the cat’s eye, but as we continue the relationship we notice all the imperfections and become disenchanted.  The way to get thorough that is to say, “I can disclose who I really am, and I trust that this person will accept me.   And I can see who this person realy is and I accept them.  It takes a lot of work, but it can be very fulfilling.”…………Chuck MacKnee, Langley, B.C

Years ago I read an article asking people how their marriage improved their life.  One man answered, “She remembers to buy the toilet paper.   Since we’ve been married, I’ve never worried about running out.” 

I know what he means.  It’s not the big things that you remember but the small every day courtesies that make your life a little better.  Each morning, my husband gets up first, makes a pot of coffee and a pot of tea. He spends about twenty minutes puttering around the quiet kitchen, slowly awakening.  He brings a cup of tea upstairs to me while I’m still in bed.  We don’t speak until I’ve finished my tea and joined him downstairs. This allows him time alone in the kitchen and gives me a chance to wake up.   Just a small daily gesture that makes my day.